With my fascination of Olympics, I have been in awe of all the tremendous hard work and difficult decisions that the Olympians have had to make over their lifetime to achieve their ultimate goal – GOLD!
With so many difficult decisions and sacrifices they have made to pursue their dreams, they had to look within, trust their gut or intuition to determine which way to go.
You have probably heard someone say, “Go with Your Gut!” That’s what I often say when someone is struggling with a decision to make. The reason for this simple answer is that we truly do know what is best. We have the wisdom within us to make those difficult choices. It’s that quiet whisper that nudges you to make a choice that is consistent with who you truly are.
It’s not always the easier choice. In fact, it is often more risky, more uncomfortable, but oh so much more rewarding. In his famous 2005 commencement speech, Steve Jobs encourages “Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become.“
Every time, I am struggling with a life decision, especially the bigger ones, I waiver between what my inner voice says and what I think I should be doing. The suffering that occurs in my head – should I – shouldn’t I. In the end, after all the back and forth, when I go with my gut, I am so much happier and it more often works itself out. When I follow the “should,” I often create more struggle and suffering.
Now this is not to say, seek out the advice and opinions of others or consider all options. I am a big fan of checking in with others – the people who know me well or have some experience with the issue. Sometimes, I seek out direct advice. Sometimes, it’s just listening and teasing out what’s going on underneath the suffering. They can provide new information to assist in making a stronger choice. Who do you reach out to for advice or support?
Now you may be saying to yourself, “How can I trust that voice? I have made bad choices in the past, I don’t know if I can trust myself.” Self-doubt can run rampant in tough decisions. Look – I get it. Why do you think I suffer so much in decision wavering? I am afraid of making the wrong decision. So I sit on the fence, which can be really uncomfortable – Ouch!
So it’s time to get off the fence and make a choice. Remember you aren’t married to your choice – you can always make another choice later. As I look back on those bad decisions, I realized that I wasn’t following my inner wisdom, my fear or need to prove myself. It was more in quick reaction rather than taking a breath, settling in and finding what was the deeper wisdom.
So the next time, you are going for gold or simply struggling to make a decision, take a breath, listen to that quiet wisdom, and step forward!
A Deeper Look
- What would you do if you listened to your inner wisdom?
- Who can you seek out for support?