We are taught when we are younger, ask and you shall receive. In a world where we are never enough, asking and receiving does nothing to satiate that hunger to have enough, to be enough. The grass is always greener on the other side, despite what we have achieved and received.
When we always get what we want for, we are never enough. The “Yes” from others can reinforce a lack within ourselves.
When we are told “No,” we are given a wall, a barrier. The “No” is an opportunity to question whether we want it and how much we want it. We are forced to question ourselves. The “No” is a mirror to look inward and determine what we really want.
- Is it something we really want or something we think we should want?
- If it is something we truly want, are we willing to go around the barrier, maybe even break through the barrier to get it?
- Are we willing to demand what we want and do what is necessary to get it? Even if it means transforming yourself?
- Are you willing to let go of your pride, your judgments, your perception of yourself for what you want?
All of that is behind the “No” – your growth, your opportunity to look within and know yourself.
So encourage more “No” in your life…and know yourself.