Last month, I had the awesome opportunity to attend the Omega Institute’s Women & Power Retreat and felt the Fire Reignited! Inspired into action by listening to Omega’s Co-Founder Elizabeth Lesser, Vulnerability Expert Brene Brown, and Roshi Joan Halifax, I was ready to reconnect to my passion and purpose to make a difference.
This past year that fiery passion had been doused with doubt and struggle. I had been on the economic roller coaster where my self-worth had been tied to the money in my bank account. Even with a decade of inner work, I still struggled to find some peace in the matter.
With the amazing support of my partner, friends and family, I found the strength to keep holding on when all I wanted to do was jump off the ride. Finally the financial roller coaster has slowed down and leveled out, I am incredibly grateful for the lessons the ride has taught me and ready to get back to my work on this planet – radical self-acceptance.
While it’s not all figured out, I have learned some great lessons along the way that I would like to share.
1. You are not your circumstances. While I have heard this one many of times and even said it to others, I didn’t realized how much I tied my identity to my work. I found myself flailing when my career was in limbo. Not sure where to go, not sure who I was. I had to keep telling myself, I am not my job. I am not my bank account. Even if we don’t attach to that, we may attach to other things like how smooth our day goes or how many likes we get on Facebook or Instagram. We are sooo much bigger than those details. If we can see our worth beyond our circumstances, then life’s challenges aren’t quite so debilitating. Our worth is unwavering.
2. Community is key. One of my saving graces has been and continues to be my community. I am incredibly grateful for friends and family to listen when I needed to vent, hug me when I needed comforting, and the kick in the butt when I wanted to give up. It’s important to reach out, get real and share what’s true for you in times of struggle. While often challenging to be vulnerable and reveal we don’t have it altogether (believe me, I can relate), it’s a crucial component to surviving the struggle.
3. Get in action…Stay in action. This is easier said than done, at least the staying in action part. By getting in action, doors opened for me, opportunities were created. Despite my fantasy and desire that money would come in by watching marathons on Netflix, it didn’t work out that way. By getting into action, energy was created and the world responded with something positive, some doorway to walk through. While I must admit I didn’t walk through all the doorways, I know momentum was created with each threshold I passed, physically, energetically, emotionally. I didn’t always know what was opening up, but I kept walking through. By keeping enough momentum with each action step, shifts can occur and life can unfold in your favor.
Life is messy, uncertain and full of challenges. One day it can take you to the top of the mountain; the next day in the deep ravine. That’s what makes it so beautifully mysterious. It is that fire within each of us that keeps us going, that gives us grit and determination to not give up. Push through the challenges, rise up out of the ravine and seek the summit of the mountain. Join me and let your light shine for all to see!